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Home Page of Nonfiction Author B. Erin Wylde |
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Welcome to my site! I hope you find a good laugh, a good cry or just some intriguing articles here. I am a mother of two, and understand how hard it is to be a mom and after staying home with a two and a four year old for two and a half years, I was trained to deal with this unexpected turn in my life by...well, I think the phrase is Baptism by fire? Please no offense to any Baptists out there, just a southern phrase I grew up with! I realized that I had been judging the SAHM (stay at home mom), very unfairly for years. I was a career woman all of my adult life, so I had no idea |
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what it would be like to have to stay home with children. But, being the smart ass Chemist/ Pharmaceutical QA Manager, I thought I knew...boy was I in for a rude awakening. I will say that all I say about how hard this job is pertains to women or men, who do the job right, meaning you don’t stick your kids in front of the boob tube all day and ignore them regularly. TV is fine, but moderation is a key element in my opinion...and that goes for everyone, no matter what age. And, yes, I did say forced to stay home. I loved my job, had great potential for my future, career wise that is, and loved the people I worked with; when my second child was born with GERD (Gastroesophogeal reflux disease), basically they can vomit for distance if there was ever such an event in the Olympics! Anyway, I had been with my firm for two years and my husband had been with his for a very long time, and of course he made more money! Big surprise to us women, right? Well, I continued to write, or try to write, while home with the kids, since that is my main gig when all is said and done, but found that the job is far less glamorous than the movie stars who “take off a year from doing million dollar movies” may make staying home with their kids, and their fleet of nannies, most likely, make it sound. Also, I started to feel as if I was fading out, worn to the core, and just plain...alone. I loved most of the time I spent with my kids, and had missed it, but where did I go? The me I used to know so well. I, just because I couldn’t help myself, and to save whatever sanity I had left, started a novel. I called it, Where Did I Go?. I didn’t think much of it except that it made me feel better to put my feelings to paper, until my husband read it and told me to publish it. Well, that was November of 2007. In May of 2008, that book was nominated to appear at Book Expo America in Los Angeles. It turned out to be quite an inspiration to many women and a few men (who read it and immediately ran out to buy their wives flowers!). My husband keeps saying he is going to buy me a cape with a big A on it, for advocate. Advocate or not, I learned a lot those two and a half years, and was allowed to take part in something that will never happen again, bonding with my children on an intense level day by day when they were forming their own little personalities. Most of all, I learned to be humble, do what my mama told me, never judge...anyone. You don’t know a person’s life until you walk a mile in their shoes, and in this case, it was many, many, many miles. That is why the first part of the book is an apology to SAHMs. I am working now, because my kids are in school, and it is what fits our family needs now, just as I say in the book...do what you have to and ditch the guilt! After all, you have to do, what you have to do to keep your family going. Sometimes, you do what you don’t want to do, sometimes you do. Life is like that...change is inevitable, but no one can take away the time I had with my kids, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world, especially when they hit their teen years ( I will try to remember this thought then)! Well, back to this site, there are links to interesting pages, articles, poetry, and links to buy my books. I am working on a sequel to Where Did I Go?, but it will be several months before that can start the publishing process. Now that I work a job by day, write by night, and help with homework, do housework, promote my books, and just draw or play with my kids….things are quite hectic, but no more than before...the only difference now is that they are in school, and there is less time for housework. I put a link to this book I speak of, just in case you want to check it out and see if it’s for you. Amazon has a search inside feature and you can actually read some of it before you decide to purchase (If you want to purchase). I am not much of a salesman, but I know how it feels to not be able to talk on the phone, go to the bathroom alone, and wake up one day and wonder….Where did I go? If you feel that you are alone, you are not. That was why I wrote the book...to help others laugh, cry and commiserate. It is a special book to me also because halfway through writing it, my brother, who was only 45 years old, and my best friend in the world, died of a freak Group A Strep Infection. I found myself lost, with two little ones depending on me for their every need, a destroyed mother, and sister, and my life in pieces and I couldn't put them back together again. This book was dedicated to him, and talks some about the sacrifices he made for his child, who is doing well with his mom, but all of us who were close to him will never be the same. We had lost my dad in 98 and this was inconceivable. I also live 600 miles away from my family, so if you are in the same boat...I can make you laugh at least. If you have very small children and are depressed...seek a physician immediately and make sure you are not clinically depressed. Bad things can happen if a case of post partum depression is not addressed. If you would like a signed copy of this book, please contact me to receive ordering information from Obsidian Beach, Inc.. There are a limited number of copies that I am selling at a discount, signed. You can also just write me at email@berinwyle.com and tell me your story. I am here to listen. I care. I can help just by being an ear, or in this case, a returned e-mail proving that there is an ear out there that hears your voice calling silently for help, and understanding what you are going through. See below for book image, and if you wish to order from Amazon, click on the link below the book image...however, if you wish to order one of the limited signed copies at a discount, write me at email@berinwylde.com Thanks for visiting, and come by anytime, our content changes from time to time (I have to do that too by the way…..there I go, complaining!) What is another cliché, as if I don’t have enough on this page...but “a mother’s job is never done”...and that is true, literally.
Sincerely, B. Erin Wylde |
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Southern Nonfiction Author, B. Erin Wylde |
